I have no idea why I am here.

Singing ‘Let it go’ with Daisy.

Singing ‘Let it go’ with Daisy.

The kids are learning about animal behaviour today. Territorial behaviour to be exact.

The kids are learning about animal behaviour today. Territorial behaviour to be exact.

That moment when you discover a random cat has wandered into your house and is eating your cat food.

That moment when you discover a random cat has wandered into your house and is eating your cat food.

Can’t move. Kitty on my belly.

Can’t move. Kitty on my belly.

I spy a small furry jerk that wants to be fed.

I spy a small furry jerk that wants to be fed.

Big day at childcare too.

Big day at childcare too.

Big day at school today.

Big day at school today.

A seasonal drawing by Felix.

A seasonal drawing by Felix.

Saturday afternoon bike ride.

Saturday afternoon bike ride.

Sexuality, too, is fluid, and many people seem to struggle with this, to the point of being actively repulsed and confused by the idea that sexual orientation does not necessarily remain consistent throughout someone’s life. This attitude is harmful for those who do experience shifts in their sexual orientations, but it also stifles conversation and exploration, as people who may be confused about their sexuality who receive this kind of messaging may experience harm that takes years to undo—and in some cases, they may never recover, because they are never given an opportunity to learn who they are and be themselves.

Take, for example, the heterosexual woman who later develops an attraction to women, and begins to identify as bisexual or lesbian. She may have experienced this attraction throughout her life and not picked up on it—perhaps she didn’t meet the right woman, or she was living in a repressive environment where homosexuality was not accepted. Or maybe her sexual orientation actively shifted. The attitudes of those around her will be dismissive and unpleasant, as people attempt to erase both her past as a heterosexual and her present as a gay or bi woman.

Though her sexuality has shifted, she remains fundamentally the same woman. Her past history doesn’t magically vanish, and she may even look back on it with fondness or gratitude for the relationships she had. Likewise, people may move through other sexual orientations depending on circumstances, their current stage of life, and other factors; the asexual who later realizes he’s gay, the lesbian woman who develops a bisexual attraction.